Are you obsessed with achieving long hair? Every time we log onto Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, YouTube or other social media, what do we see? Super long and dope healthy hair. When we look in the mirror, what do we see? A problematic head of hair that is short(er) in comparison to those on social media. Looking at all those beautiful heads of hair should be motivating but often times it has the reverse effect — it is frustrating and reminds us how much further we have to go to achieve similar greatness.
Let’s have an honest conversation with self – are we so obsessed with achieving long hair that it is impacting our happiness? Has the desire to achieve long hair consumed us so much that we feel we cannot live life to the fullest without it? Has social media led us to believe our hair is not long enough, curly enough, straight enough, even enough, thick enough or good enough?
In a recent discussion, a healthy hair enthusiast expressed her desires for long hair and the impacts of a recent hair setback (a setback is experiencing breakage or damage from a product or technique). She suffered breakage in a recent hair setback and lost a good bit of hair length. She feels long hair is important as it provides her with purpose and not having it is impacting her life.
Do you feel the same way? (and be honest)
My initial answer is no! Hair does not define me, I define it. However, the more I think on this question, the more I realize, I have not always been this chill about hair length.
When I first started my healthy hair journey, hair length did not matter much. I simply desired healthy hair. Soon thereafter, hair length began to matter after seeing so many beautiful heads of long, healthy hair. I became obsessed with hair length and it impacted me to a point where I was obsessing over breakage and checking every strand of hair that fell from my head. Let’s not even get into the number of hair length check photos I had. Thankfully, I eventually snapped out of that cycle and realized hair length is not everything. My current goal is healthy hair no matter the length although I prefer longer hair for convenience. However, longer hair is not a must for me to feel like I have purpose.
If you’re dealing with alopecia like my sister, then I totally get why you are stressed over hair. Alopecia is definitely a big deal as you’re dealing with something much greater than what I speak of.
For the rest of us, if you are stressing over hair length, just be patient! Assuming you are healthy and your scalp is healthy, hair grows at an average rate of 1/2″ per month. Retention is where you should focus your attention so that you retain as much length possible. Hair can be gorgeous at any length and it definitely does not define us. We are far greater than hair!