Seeing how I left the salon without notification, I had some returning to a previous stylist concerns and jitters but those calmed quickly. It was like old times upon hello and that was awesome. I sat in the chair and felt 100% comfortable. I wasn’t worried about what she was using, doing or trimming. I went there with the intent to tell her to cut 1″ but things just felt so right that I went with the flow and let her work the magic. I didn’t realize how uncomfortable and nervous I’d been at other salons until today. Feeling relaxed and at ease is what the salon experience should be about and I recaptured that today — how awesome.
I have enjoyed being relaxed and have never given transitioning any thought. I actually love(d) and enjoy(ed) being relaxed even through thick and thin when relaxed hair lost its cool. While I’ve had a few salon hiccups here and there, I’ve never had one that made me question the decision to be relaxed, ever! That changed about 6 months ago.
I went to the salon for a touch up in June 2013 and things went really wrong. My hair was protein overloaded and breaking horribly. I recovered and pressed on. The following touch up in Aug 2013 went really wrong as well. I lost so much hair that it’s not even real. I have you know, I kept that ball of hair as a constant, painful reminder. Having two salon mishaps back to back made me truly question the desire to be relaxed. I had no clue why my hair just started acting out. Was it the relaxer strength? Was it the stylist? Am I over processed? So many questions with little to no answers.
I complained about my hair for months and have practically driven my hair forum buds crazy (love you ladies!). I was not happy whatsoever and truly convinced myself that my hair was unhealthy and suffering tremendously. I considered transitioning. The only thing that stopped me was breakage so I caved and went back to the creamy crack (I hate that phrase so badly but it’s fitting here).
Rather than going back to the same stylist, I needed and opted for a change. My hair couldn’t afford yet another touch up gone wrong. I decided to go back to a previous stylist that I frequented for many, many years back in the day when I was salon dependent. I loved her skill then and now and only left because I no longer felt valued as a customer.
Our conversation was good. We hugged at hello and goodbye. She and I caught up and just picked up where we left off. I feel like this is the start of something new. I’m feeling so good that I’m tempted to make a 2 week wash/blow dry appt like the old days. 😛
She knows I’m a DIYer and she gave me tips for maintenance which I gladly accepted. She advised my hair type (whatever that is, I didn’t ask) shouldn’t be bone straight. She showed me a head of hair that could get by with bone straight because of its coarse nature. Apparently I lack the coarseness required. I am cool with that because I was considering texlaxing anyway. She advised me to relax every 10 weeks because any longer is just not healthy for my hair (agreed).
I was relaxed with Design Essentials Time Released at other salons. The salon I visited tonight also carries the Design Essentials line but she cautioned it’s a very strong relaxer and she prefers Naked by Essations for my hair. I’ve read mixed reviews about Naked but I was pretty certain I didn’t want to use Design Essentials any longer. I expressed my concerns about Naked that she calmed. She’s been using Naked for 2 years and love the way it performs.
Truth be told, I have so much trust in her (that I didn’t have with others) that if I have issues with Naked in the coming weeks, I know she’ll make it right because she has mad skillz. Words cannot describe the happiness I’m feeling at the moment. I haven’t felt this good on day 1 in a very long while.
I’ve written a novel and could go on but I’ll end it (for now) by saying, I’ve always wanted a u-shape hemline but other stylists were threatening to chop a tremendous amount of hair to make it work. The stylist from tonight suggested u-shape vs. blunt cut to preserve length. I was all for it. She advised her hair grows uneven and maintaining a u-shape will help offset the uneven growth. Saweet!
She also did a de-calcification treatment on my hair to ensure I had no calcium deposits from prior relaxers. I thought that was pretty fancy. I’ve never heard or had a de-calcification treatment. I will be researching and learning more about this on visits to come.
Tonight’s visit has renewed my excitement and desire to be a Relaxed Diva! 😆
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