Referring to someone as having good hair is highly unpopular amongst the online hair community. However, thanks to Beyoncé, Becky with the Good Hair has been trending on all social media streams. While the rest of the world chase down Becky, let’s shift the focus a bit to discuss what does good hair mean to you and in your community.
The History of Good Hair
In my opinion, the phrase was used to separate silky hair girls from kinky hair girls. While I’ve never felt victim of the divide, many have and it has created some pretty hurtful memories. When we know better, we do better. Therefore, healthy hair enthusiasts now understand that all hair is good with proper hair care.
What Does Good Hair Mean In Your Community?
In my community, it means two different things….I think.
First, you have the silky hair types who can seriously put juices and berries on their hair and it will grow down to the floor.
Around my way, many have told me I have good hair. Now you know good and well, I don’t have good hair from a silky hair standpoint.
Therefore, I think they simply mean I have long, pretty and healthy looking hair which gives life to a second meaning. I emphasize long in this instance because I think many believe long hair is good hair.
What Others Are Saying
Just the other day, I was in Sally Beauty Supply and the manager and I started talking about hair. Out of nowhere, she mentioned it burns her up to hear someone use the phrase good hair. She believes we all have good hair. It’s just a matter of how you take care of it. I thought that was well said. For the record, she has silky hair.
I polled a small group of people and here is what good hair means to them:
- hair that is not breaking and dry
- hair that is not knotted up and nappy
- hair that does what you want it to do
- healthy hair – a woman’s glory
- Mahogany Curls type hair – manageable, long, versatile
- silky, loose or looser curl pattern, manageable, long and easy to work with
What Does Good Hair Mean To You?
I grew up in a community where phrases like “good hair” and “nappy hair” were used. I grew up thinking there is good hair and bad hair. I never knew we all have good hair if we take care of it.
Let’s take my hair as an example. Growing up, my hair appeared “nappy.” It was very thick and had zero curl definition. This is the only memory I have of my natural hair. Now that I’m reconnecting with my natural hair, it’s nothing like what I remembered. Therefore, my current views definitely differ from my previous views.
Based on my experiences as an adult, I believe good hair is not defined by hair type. Rather, it’s how you care for it and the state of your hair – healthy vs. unhealthy.
Yes! I recognize that some have an easier experience than others be it luck or skill. Some are able to grow hair faster than others. Some have less struggles than others. Some have a seemingly easier curl pattern to manage than others. However, that doesn’t mean their hair is good hair or better than yours.
Good hair is what you make of it and what you do with what you’ve been blessed with.